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Marriage Questions
Jan. 7th, 2005 02:26 amI am calling upon the great knowledge of those who read this LJ to ask a few questions about getting hitched.
The two main ones are:
1) What do couples who have already been living together for some years do in terms of registering?
I imagine people just give money, but that's boring.
If nothing else, because I want the characters (it's for my next grpahic novel, MIXED BLESSINGS, that I'm wondering these things) to get to go running through Bed, Bath, and Beyond with that hand-held scanner thingey, racking up anything their little hearts desire.
Now, I imagine B,B & B is a bit low-brow, but it is oh-so-gay (at least the one in the middle of Chelsea).
What other places might this couple decide to register and/or what sorts of things would they be looking for (having already lived together fo4 years and pretty established in their apartment, I'd say, but an excuse to redecorate?? To get a china pattern instead of just the usual dishes? Do people bother with that sort of thing any more? What sort of parental pressure might their respective families--one WASP, the other Jewish--put on them to register for certain items or at certain places)?
2) In an interfaith marriage, how do the couples generally comrpomise in terms of having a rabbi and/or a priest? Since gays cannot marry legally, it will need to be a religious ceremony.
How big an issue is it for most rabbis (except some reform ones?) if the non-Jewish partner doesn't convert?
Does it make a difference for priests (open-minded enough to do a gay wedding, obviously)?
Thanks for any kibbitzing from folks about this.
The two main ones are:
1) What do couples who have already been living together for some years do in terms of registering?
I imagine people just give money, but that's boring.
If nothing else, because I want the characters (it's for my next grpahic novel, MIXED BLESSINGS, that I'm wondering these things) to get to go running through Bed, Bath, and Beyond with that hand-held scanner thingey, racking up anything their little hearts desire.
Now, I imagine B,B & B is a bit low-brow, but it is oh-so-gay (at least the one in the middle of Chelsea).
What other places might this couple decide to register and/or what sorts of things would they be looking for (having already lived together fo4 years and pretty established in their apartment, I'd say, but an excuse to redecorate?? To get a china pattern instead of just the usual dishes? Do people bother with that sort of thing any more? What sort of parental pressure might their respective families--one WASP, the other Jewish--put on them to register for certain items or at certain places)?
2) In an interfaith marriage, how do the couples generally comrpomise in terms of having a rabbi and/or a priest? Since gays cannot marry legally, it will need to be a religious ceremony.
How big an issue is it for most rabbis (except some reform ones?) if the non-Jewish partner doesn't convert?
Does it make a difference for priests (open-minded enough to do a gay wedding, obviously)?
Thanks for any kibbitzing from folks about this.
